Q&A: how can i find a good support group for my family. My father has small cell cancer. My mother, father and the?
Question by aunty bec: how can i find a good support group for my family. My father has small cell cancer. My mother, father and the?
family are dealing with it but not at ease.I would like to find a support group that would help us. My parents live in Knoxville TN
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Answer by TedEx
The local chapter of the American Cancer Society. There is nothing better,
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My father has lung cancer….any advice how to approach this?
Question by Alrozz: My father has lung cancer….any advice how to approach this?
I just found a few hours ago and I am trying to understand what is my position in helping him make the decision to fight this, but at the same time keep the family strong too. This is difficult to handle.
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Answer by Kathryn
well the only thing you can do is be there to support him. Whatever decision he makes is ultimately up to him
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Could my father have lung cancer?
Question by : Could my father have lung cancer?
He thinks he does, and I’ve looked up the symptoms of lung cancer, and he’s got 4/5.
He can barely breathe, he says.
Apparently he has this very sharp pain in the entire upper base of his arm, and it’s constant.
He coughs up green/yellow phlegm. No blood, yet.
He has pain in his chest.
If you have any other symptoms I could keep an eye for, please list them. Thank you.
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Answer by g
Never draw conclusions and start worrying over them better be examined by a proper doctor and have the tests done and let him pronounce the result. it may due to some virus or change in the climate.
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My father was diagnosed with renal cell carcinoma stage 4. Any suggestion where can we get the best treatment?
Question by pbaquerizo: My father was diagnosed with renal cell carcinoma stage 4. Any suggestion where can we get the best treatment?
He had his kidney removed 8 years ago, he had RCC stage 2. He had follow ups that were all clean. Last year he had his prostate removed too. And a month ago, we found the recurency in his column and in his lungs. He is 69 years old.
I am his son, and had my kydney removed last year with a RCC stage 1, I´ve had 2 ct scan since, and all are clean.
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Answer by kathy
This is the time to make a tough choice.
He can spend time seeking treatment, which has side effects and be miserable . It’s obvious that the cancer keeps spreading despite all the treatments he’s already had.
or:
He can live out the rest of his life with family, loved ones, and friends in peace, doing whatever things he is capable of that he enjoys. He can reminisce, share stories about his parents and grandparents that can be passed down to the next generation.
My Dad died of bone cancer, which is the most painful of all cancers. He elected to stay at home without TX enjoying his Met games, his western books and his family.
I was the only one he was able to talk about death with; the other family could not handle the topic.
Bless you & your Dad whatever decision he makes. You need to respect his decision even if you disagree…It is HIS life.
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I killed my Father and I’m having a hard time dealing with it!!?
Question by MacguyverIT: I killed my Father and I’m having a hard time dealing with it!!?
My Father had been in the hospital for about a year dying from lung cancer and was in severe pain. He had told me that in the end he didn’t want to be resuscitated if he passed and had a DNR (Do not resuscitate) on file but when I got a call in the middle of the night stating he had a heart attack I raced to the hospital to find they had put him on a ventilator to keep him alive which I was happy he was but when I asked why they did that when he had a DNR order in place they said he did not so it was up to me, since I had his power of attorney, to honor his wish but it tore me apart and I couldn’t do it right away. So I called the family to let them know they should get to the hospital and explained what I needed to do and they agreed that I needed to honor his wishes but they could not get to the hospital right away so I ended up keeping him on the ventilator for another day until they arrived so I sat by his side without sleeping until the next evening when they arrived and I left the room to ask the nurse to remove the life support. He lasted another two days on his own and I stayed by his side without sleep until he passed away.
It’s been a little over a month now and all I can think of every minute of every day is that I killed my Father! I know it’s what he wanted but that doesn’t make it any easier and it’s affecting my work since instead of actually working I sit and think while just staring at my computer screen, I don’t eat lunch but instead go out to my car and sleep for an hour, my doctor put me on antidepressants (Cymbalta) which gave me some of the worst migraine type pain but on the top of my head.
I just don’t know what do do to get passed this and I think I’m going to lose my job which will cause me to lose everything else that matters to me since I’m teetering on foreclosure and bankruptcy due to this messed up economy already.
Has anyone out there been through something like this and how did you get through it?
Plz help!!!
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If I receive a settlement award for my father passing away from mesothelioma, is that money taxable?
Question by Red Sox lover: If I receive a settlement award for my father passing away from mesothelioma, is that money taxable?
I am receiving money from different makers of asbestos pertaining to the death of my father. Is the money I receive from these companies taxable?
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Answer by Vinegar Taster
Look on your 1040.
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Think my father might have lung cancer. I’m scared, very scared.?
Question by : Think my father might have lung cancer. I’m scared, very scared.?
My father is 55 years old, and has been smoking for years and years, probably since he was a teenager. He quit once, awhile ago, maybe like 6-7 years past, but then my cousin died, and he dove into depression, and pulled out the cigarettes to help him cope.
That brings us to today. He doesn’t have the same “clear” voice that used to have. He wheezes, coughs up phlegm CONSTANTLY, and as of now, has an incredibly bad cough. He says it’s a cold, and he has a runny nose as well, but this particular cough seems far too bad, as its rough, dry, and lasts sets him off on minute-long coughing tangents
He is my father, and I love him very much. i am 18 now, and I have grown up considerably the past year. I used to spend absolutely NO time with my family; I ignored my parents, simply going straight to my room after school to go on the computer and play video games; I scolded and insulted my brother often, treating him like trash, and I was never really close or sincere to my relatives.
I’ve changed now. You can say was an epiphany I see life in a different light now. I spend much more time with my family, throwing video games and the computer aside, and actually show love to my brother, spenidng time with him, dirivng arund, going to the movies. It makes us both happy. I also actually kiss my relatives now when I see them, instead of the usual hug. I kiss and adore them.
If you have read this, thank you, for it is me venting my stress and worries I have bened dealing with. I love my father, but he is very ignorant to my, and the rest of my families wishes. I constantly tell him that he needs to stop smoking, that if he wants ot live long enough to see my 5 year old sister get married, and walk her down the asile, he NEEDS to stop smoking. But, everytime I, or someone else tells him this, he simply ignores us.
I need support, prayer, etc. I really do feel that my father may have cancer, and I’m incredibly stressed, My mother has colitos, and is already suffering. I do not want my father to suffer as well.
Any tips, adivce, etc., is GREATLY appreciated.
Again, thank you.
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Q&A: Cancer support question – boyfriend’s father?
Question by : Cancer support question – boyfriend’s father?
My boyfriend’s father has cancer. He has just had some tests and has multiple tumors in his stomach and lesions on his lungs, etc. Basically, the outlook is awful. He was given 2 months to live by the doctors.
I’m trying to be there for my boyfriend, he lives far away, so I can’t be there physically, but I’m trying to be as supportive as I can….I am available for him 24/7 to chat, but I’m wondering if anyone else has ideas of what I can do to be supportive. I’ve never lost anyone close to me, and I’ve never been a support for someone who’s lost someone, so I’m not 100% sure what to do. Mostly I’ve been letting him speak his mind and telling him I love him, but a lot of the time I feel like I don’t know what to say. I love him tons and want to help him get through this rough time.
Any ideas? How have you helped a loved one go through losing a family member?
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Answer by cristelle R
keep doing what you’re doing… being there for him…stay by the phone and talk to him and give him your support… encourage him and strengthen him by telling him you are there for him the entire way..
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Q&A: My 80 year old father has been excessively sleeping lately, what could be wrong?
Question by The Kid: My 80 year old father has been excessively sleeping lately, what could be wrong?
My father is 80 years old and in the last 10 days, he had been excessively sleeping for most of each day. I’m not sure if fatigue is the right word here. But I have not seen him awake and doing his normal routine for no more than a combined five hours at most.
For example, using midnight as a starting point for his 24-hour day, he gets up at 8:00AM, eats breakfast, then goes back to bed at 10:30AM. He wakes up at 1:30PM, eats lunch, watches a bit of TV, then goes to bed again at 3:00PM. He wakes up at 7:00PM, eats dinner, watches TV, then goes back to bed at 10:30PM… this cannot be right! All his meals in the last 10 days has been either a bowl of oatmeal or instant Ramen noodles. He rarely eats solid food like meat and vegetables since this started, fearing he might vomit shortly thereafter. He has been gradually losing weight. He usually weighs about 150 pounds, but now is around 140.
He has diabetes, high blood pressure, and gout. He takes prescription medications for all those. A former smoker, he had three lung cancer surgeries… the last one was 15 years ago.
He has refrained from seeing his doctor, thinking this is just a cold that would just pass. On his own, he’s taking the over-the-counter Delsym 12-hour cough suppresant for the last few days, but it doesn’t seem to be working.
What could be affecting him?
10 days and counting is too long for me. I am deeply concerned about my father.
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Answer by sol w
He may be suffering from neurasthenia which leaves a patient exhausted. Perhaps you could persuade him to take a good quality multivitamin or B complex formula (Solgar is a good one) when he has breakfast as this may boost his energy. Try calling his doctor and voicing your concerns.
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Q&A: How do I cope with the death of my father?
Question by נσαииα líkєs turtlєs☮: How do I cope with the death of my father?
He died today. June 16th, 2010. 12:20 PM. I’m just here to sort through my feelings and distract myself. I don’t really know how I’m going to though. It’s still surreal and I’m so sad. I’m trying to stay strong though. I don’t think I’ll ever be over it. But I’ll just have to cope.
He was diagnosed with stomach cancer a little over a month ago. At first they said they could do chemotherapy, but then they found out it had spread too much. He would just slowly die with the help of hosparus. The cancer had spread so much that he had stomach cancer along with liver cancer, lung cancer, and bone cancer. He’s not suffering anymore although. He died in my mom’s arms while I laid in bed because I did not want to see him like that. That picture etched in my mind forever. I did not want that. I wanted memories of him being healthy. I’m still afraid of breaking down at the funeral, or in front of others. I can’t stand for people to see me cry. But me not crying would make me seem heartless. I’ve had to hold back tears all day. Many family members came to see him before the coroner came. I stayed in the kitchen. I could not stand to see him lying there, dead in the living room.
I was daddy’s girl. I always followed him, watched him, and he was my idol. I wanted to make him proud.
I don’t want to talk to people about this. I’ll cry and won’t be able to form words. I’m just wondering what are some ways to deal with this other than talking to people?
Most of my friends don’t even know. I’m too afraid of breaking down and crying. A social worker also came this morning to help us take our mind off of it. I’m a bit better, but I’ll never be whole again. I feel as though a piece of me is missing. I can never see or speak to my father again. And it’s just a few days before father’s day he died. I’m just trying to think of positive memories. I know he knew I loved him even though I never told him. And I don’t remember the last words I said to him. I hope they were nice.
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Answer by Lauren the Football Princess
I`m so sorry to hear that. It`s the most difficult thing in the world when someone dies, especially a close family member.
Don`t bottle up your emotions. Talk to your mom, or a counselor to get out what you feel. If you want to just be alone, then that`s fine too.
Everyone has their own way of grieving. If you are religious and you believe in the after life, you`ll know he`s in a better place and not suffering.
Pray for yourself, your family, and your father. Good luck, and I truly hope you finally find peace.
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Daughters of Cebu Vice Gov. Gregorio Sanchez confirm their father has lung cancer
Cebu Vice Gov. Greg Sanchez’ daughters Grecilda Sanchez – Zaballero and Gerlyda Sanchez – Spiller in a press conference on April 19, 2011 confirm their father is battling stage 4 lung cancer. Video by Dale G. Israel, reporter
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Farewell to a Father
Some material in this video may be too powerful for sensetive viewers. The final 48 hours of the life of a man stricken with Bladder Cancer. This video shows the last moments of a cancer victim as he fights through the morphine to say goodbye. It shows his death. It shows his body in a funeral home. It has family members speaking and crying. It is set to Led Zeppelin’s “Stairway To Heaven” with proper copyright notices to that band. This is a STUDENT FILM that is not for resale or profit. It is a memorial piece for those family members who wish to see it.
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My (ex) boyfriends father is dying of cancer, what do I say?
Question by Rhonda: My (ex) boyfriends father is dying of cancer, what do I say?
I spent last Christmas with him and his family and fell in love with his parents. His father now has a large tumor on his lung and the prognosis is not good. My ex and I are no longer officially together but his family accepted me as part of their family and we speak on a regular bases. I don’t know his father that well and I don’t know what to say. They are trying chemo but he is feeling tired all the time and less hopeful as time goes on. He’s in his 80′s and and is (was) still very active and cognizant. I can’t say “everything is going to be fine” because it doesn’t look that way. I don’t know what to say….
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Answer by trouble
ask his age, social security, birth date, etc. and take out an insurance policy on him
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Q&A: father has a 2 inch mass in lung on an x-ray what else could it be
Question by sugar: father has a 2 inch mass in lung on an x-ray what else could it be
besides cancer? i just need hope because thats all i have.
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Answer by Cribber
I’ve got one too… it is scar tissue from an old case of really bad pneumonia when I was a kid. They always see it in xray and always freak out and then I tell them go check with another Dr. they will see it has always been there.
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How long has my father got to live? cancer and dementia…?
Question by : How long has my father got to live? cancer and dementia…?
My dying Father was diagnosed with lung cancer in October 2010 and has 2 large masses in his left lung (upper lobe??) I am unsure whether it has spread or not as no treatment was done on him.
In January 2011 he was diagnosed with dementia (frontal lobe).
He hasnt been right for about 2 years… but hasnt been able to complete normal tasks for around 6 months. We visited him today and he is now incontinent, has lost his voice, shakes, is very clumsy (nearly fell over several times) and weighs approximately 45 to 50 kilos (99 to 110lbs) he used to be about 75kgs (165lbs).
He can barely eat a sandwich and may need to start eating more mushier foods like baby food…
He can remember all our birth dates and can recognise who we are, sometimes getting us wrong but not often. It seems his mind is still right he’s just losing the battle psychically..
How long would you give my Dad? I am so scared that he may die… I know the time is coming… when? Cant make an appt with his doctor because getting an appt is like winning lotto…
I am SUPPOSED to be that person, i am his POA and legal guardian but they tell me fuck all…
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Answer by Nurse For 21 Years
Without knowing his complete medical chart, there is no way on earth that anyone here on the internet would even venture a remote guess as to how long he has left. Talk to whoever takes him to the doctor. They should know everything.
Your family needs to appoint one person the family spokesperson, so that person would take him to all his appointments and be sure and keep the rest of the family up to date on his condition.
IN ADDITION…..If you are his POA for healthcare and have the legal paperwork to prove it, the doctor should be speaking to you before anyone else. You should have all information as it occurs. If you don’t have the actual paperwork with you, then you’re just like anyone else.
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my deceased father requested me a favour in my dream?
Question by PleaseBringMyFamilyBack: my deceased father requested me a favour in my dream?
My father passed away a few days ago after he lost a battle to lung cancer. My grief has been excruciatingly unbearable until a couple nights ago when i saw him in my dreams, so i knew he was okay, He asked for me to return to the cancer centre hospital where he had passed away and retain his favourite nike t-shirt, i didn’t even know that his t-shirt was there, he wanted me to put it in the coffin with him for when he was buried. Otherwise the nurses would have just taken it, washed it and had given someone else to wear, i got it back, i found it in the laundy ward of the hospital and did as he had wished. Am i allowed to ask the funeral directors whether my father could wear this t-shirt while he was to be buried?
Please, to the insensitive people on her, no rude or negative comments, they will not be tolerated and i will report you.
To everyone else who answers this, thank you kindly.
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Answer by poetic_accord
You should be able to ask the funeral directors to let him wear it…that it was his wish…but I think that they can still overrule your wish.
I’m not sure though.
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How do i keep my mind off of not knowing the outcome of my father inlaws pancreatic cancer surgery?
Question by cutiepie81289: How do i keep my mind off of not knowing the outcome of my father inlaws pancreatic cancer surgery?
he doesn’t go in until the 9th and i”m a bundle of nerves.
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Answer by samantha a
just wish for the best and think of all the fun times you’ve had with him. it will be okay, i promise.
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what should i do if my father has lung cancer?
Question by sayGirl: what should i do if my father has lung cancer?
I’m 14 and i have been researching on lung cancer for a while now. My father has been smoking since he was a teenager, and now he is starting to develop some symptoms for lung cancer. For example, congestion in lungs,Wheezing, and persistent cough for months. Mother and I told him to get a check up but he says he is fine. I’m worry about him because he hasn’t been to any check up since 5 years ago. I don’t know, maybe I’m just being paranoid, I don’t know. But listen, I just lost my Grandfather 5 month ago and I don’t want anything happening to my father. I’m so scared, I don’t know what to do. So please, what should i do?
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Answer by sue
Chill!! there are worse things than the chance your dad is developing cancer.
Smoking does not cause cancer of the lungs. If there are cancer genes, the smoking will make it worse, but not cause it.
Sounds to me like your dad is developing COPD which is NOT cancer, but a breathing problem. This is what my doctor is sneaking up at me. She said I MAY have it. She prescribed an inhaler to make breathing easier, but it gives me other problems that are worse than not being able to take deep breath.
Yes, your dad needs to see the doctor. But being adult and you child, he probably will just get mad and not go if you keep badgering him about it.
I would be much more worried about him getting testicular cancer than lung cancer with his attitude.
Work on getting him to go get the PSA test done for the testicular cancer. That way you are not badgering him about his smoking!
You work around men! You don’t ever confront them.
This way you “kill 2 birds with 1 stone”, you get him to go to the doctor and the doctor does the rest of it.
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Dear Dr. my father is suffering from spinal metastatic?
Question by Chandrasekhar c: Dear Dr. my father is suffering from spinal metastatic?
Biopsy report is as below
Diagnosis-
metastatic adenocarcinoma,paraspinal mass
primary like to be lungs
it should be curable.
radiation therapy is good treatment
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Answer by Denisedds
I have no idea what your question is, but I can tell you a pathologist would NEVER put “it should be curable.radiation therapy is good treatment” in their report.
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Boyfriend/Ex father has lung cancer…?
Question by mookie415: Boyfriend/Ex father has lung cancer…?
Ex boyfriend advice- MEN ages 30-40 HELP ME!!!?
I need some serious advice and insight-
My ex and I have been having fights lately. His father has stage 4 lung cancer and it’s gotten progressively worse. J, my boyfriend, is in a state of despression, self-reflection (he has some issues within himself he wants to work out), and intense stress. We have “broken up” but, we talk every day and after we have huge blow-outs…we admit that we love and care for each other. We also continue to express that we miss each other and feel like we have lost our best friend. We are in contact constantly and care about what’s going on in the others lives.
WHAT IS GOING ON???
Is this person keeping me in his life because he loves me and wants us to work out? Do you think he feels weak as a man right now and just needs time to sort his **** out before he can try and focus on our relationship again? This is a good man, who is 38- not looking to play games and waste time. We are both staying faithful to the other eventhough we are not technically “together”. How do I interpret his love and continuing to reach out and engage in my life? Does he just need time to get strong again and get a grip on his issues and dealing with his father dying?
We wanted to get married and have a family. Something we were very open and honest about. Should I hold onto faith that this will work itself out since there is so much love? Should I give him space to resolve his stress and issues and trust he will come back since he hasn’t really done anything to prove that he wants to lose me, other than just screaming things when he’s angry?
Thanks!
T
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Answer by midnightmoon62
He is about to loose his father. It is natural that he would have a lot of emotional issues going on right now.
The best thing I know to tell you…. Encourage him to join a support group for the families of cancer patients. There are usually several options in each area, and they are free as well as anonymous. His dad’s doc should have some recommendations of good groups to join. If you guys are going to stay together, you might want to go with him, or go to one by yourself as well.
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